The key to a lasting relationship, says Gay Talese, is looking past the ‘mating game’s’ wonted rituals and flowery ambiguities and learning to emphasize mutual freedom and respect.
Source: Big Think
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Great interview but I do not agree with all of it….I live the kind of life his parent’s did. Yes a little too confining. I do work with my husband. I am envious that Gay knew so early on what he wanted in life. But here is where I disagree….sex really is incredibly important in a marriage. If good sex is missing, it will become very central. The respect is needed, and all the other great qualities that Gay specified, and then the good sex should be present also for an excellent long term relationship. He must have had a wonderful wife and life with Nan, and she was probably very patient and giving. Great sex is a terrific way to glue a relationship when it hits bumps in the road and to help with lousy times. Sometimes it sounds to me as though he is bragging about having an “open marriage”. Just listening between the words.