Oh dear ..Mothers already wilting under a barrage of contradictory advice about child-rearing are told that nurseries will damage their children, the naughty step is counter-productive and that toddler misbehaviour is all their fault.
The psychologist and broadcaster Oliver James has stomped on to sensitive terrain with a book that suggests mothers of toddlers should avoid working outside the home. In a work that has already provoked howls of anger, he argues that children should not be left in the care of others for long periods, and lays into the strict disciplining of young children by comparing it to training them “like a dog in a laboratory”. Link to continue reading
Source: The Times
Published: March 31, 2010
Seems like parenting tips are in vogue today! This next post is fresh off the press from Kansas State University. It’s hard to ignore: the tantrum-throwing child at the department store and the stressed-out parent at wit’s end, embarrassed, not sure what to do next.
When children act out in public, parents don’t always know how best to respond, according to Chuck Smith, a Kansas State University child development expert. The proper way to react depends on a number of factors, he said, including the child’s age, the purpose of the public outing and whether the child’s behavior even needs to be corrected. [continue reading…]
Published: March 31, 2010
According to Larry Nucci, a research psychologist at the Institute of Human Development at the University of California, Berkeley- believes that if you look closely at which rules children obey and which they reject, there are clear patterns to be found. link to continue reading
Source: NPR
Published: March 13, 2010
The pitfalls of life with a difficult mother The Independent
I to could write a book on this subject. Its 5 years since my mother passed away and only now am I beginning to understanding the complexity of my relationship with her and the coping mechanisms that I developed to negotiate and maintain our relationship. And how it came at great personal cost.
Oh that I could, with my hand on heart, profess not to be “mummy dearest” to my own 4 kids. Fortunately though I have my partner Dr. O, who is on me like a “ton of bricks” whenever I stray too far down that path! This great article in the Independent is written by psychologist Dr. Terri Apter whose books on family dynamics, identity and relationships have received international acclaim link to read
