Conventional wisdom says that if you idealize the person you marry, the disappointment is just going to be that much worse when you find out they aren’t perfect. But new research published in Psychological Science, a journal of theAssociation for Psychological Science, challenges that assumption; people who were unrealistically idealistic about their partners when they got married were more satisfied with their marriage three years later than less idealistic people. [continue reading…]
Therapist Says It’s Best to Love Someone Who Loves What You Love
When it comes to love, it might not be best for Capulets and Montagues to mingle and marry.
That’s because while opposites can attract, they may not be best for each other, according to Chelsea Madsen, a Kansas State University instructor of family studies and human services and a licensed marriage and family therapist. People are typically attracted to someone who loves what they love, she said. [continue reading…]
If you say “it’s snowing hard out there,” are you annoyed if no one gets up to shovel the walkway? Vexed, are you, by your intimates’ inability to see what you meant? Do you think a long love’s result should be near-wordless mind-reading? If so, here is some advice derived from the current issue of the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology: Grow up, dummy, and try saying what you actually mean. In this paper, researchers tracked how people in couples read between the lines when listening to their partners, and compared that to how well they understood total strangers. Results: No difference.Curious” Continue reading
What a delightful way to start the week. For all you dog lovers out there. Filmakers Paul and Sandra Fierlinger are receiving glowing reviews for their beautifully animated film about the bond between an elderly bachelor and his german shepherd.
Literary editor of a weekly BBC program called “The Listener”, J.R. Ackerley hardly thought of himself as a dog lover when, in middle age, he came to adopt an Alsatian bitch, Tulip. To his surprise, she turned out to be the love of his life, the ideal companion he had been searching for in vain for years.
MY DOG TULIP is a bittersweet retrospective account of their fourteen-year relationship. In vivid and sometimes startling detail, the film shows Tulips often erratic behavior, canine tastes, and Ackerleys determined efforts to ensure an existence of perfect happiness for Tulip. Here’s a peek at the trailer.
