Sexual Problems

The makings of a sex addict

A study of so-called sex addiction and its impact on relationships has found that those with problematic sexual behaviour are more likely to feel threatened by or anxious about intimate relationships.

The study, the first of its kind in New Zealand, was conducted this year as part of an honours project by clinical psychology student Karen Faisandier, with assistance from practising clinical psychologist Robyn Salisbury and academic specialist Dr Joanne Taylor.

More than 880 adults agreed to participate in an anonymous on-line questionnaire about their sexual orientation, preferences and activities and their feelings about the impacts of these on them and their relationships with others. Questions included whether they engaged in online sex, prostitution, sex that made them feel degraded or put them at risk of harm, sex with multiple partners or public indecency. They were also asked about alcohol and drug use, relationship experiences and feelings about themselves.

Sex addiction, a condition often associated with the scandals surrounding celebrity entertainers and sportsmen, is described in academic terms as one of a range of out of control sexual behaviours (OOCSB) that include impulsive or compulsive sexual thoughts, feelings and actions. [continue reading…]

9-Treatments-for-Sexual-Dysfunction-in-Women_full_article_vertical Many women experience problems in the bedroom at one time or another. Female sexual dysfunction is not uncommon and although some women and healthcare providers have difficulty discussing it, it has been recognized by the medical community for decades. In fact, for the last twenty years, it has been listed in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, a manual published by the American Psychiatric Association, used to classify and diagnose psychological disorders.

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surprise60% of women surveyed wished they had sex more often! The current issue of Glow magazine looks at why women aren’t having as much sex as they’d like. Tri-City Psychology’s very own sex therapist and psychologist Dr. Marelize Swart is interviewed for this feature article.marelize-2

So many women are too shy to initiate sex,” says Marelize Swart, “or their moves are simply much too subtle!” She has seen many women who claim to have had their hottest moves rebuffed, but further prodding finds that we may be slipping in our seduction tactics. “I’ve had women say ‘But I showered!’ and are hurt when their husbands don’t pick up on their cue,” she says. “If we think we’re being ignored or rejected, we get hurt and mad – and then turned off. Remember: Men aren’t mind readers!

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If you want more sex, the first step is to take a really close look at what’s stopping you, says Swart. And the next step? Trying to find solutions together.

Not tonight,dear

Now you have something to blame besides a headache: German researchers have discovered that after four years of committed bliss, fewer than half of 30-year old women desire sex regularly, whereas-surprise, surprise -men’s sex drives remain constant. The Vancouver based sex therapist Marelize Swart says the study reflects what she sees in her practice, but ” both sexes want the same thong at the end of the day: closeness” To get closer try sharing a new sexual experience, such as using a vibrator. And, of course . taking Tylenol for the headache.

Source:Chatelaine , November 2007